I have heard that there are two ways to explain how a person treats others.
Either they are acting from a place of love.
or they are acting from a need for love.
I’m not saying that this is always true. It’s too simple an equation to explain all interactions. But as I look around my own life I can see a lot of validity in this idea. Even in myself. Especially in myself.
At the very least, it’s a way to start thinking about the ways in which people may have treated you badly – or you, them.
We are told that forgiveness is actually a gift you give to your own spirit. But, sometimes that concept doesn’t fit into our jigsawed lives.
Still, knife-wielding words, thrown in your direction, do not have to draw blood. Remember, your assailant can not locate the strength they need to drop their weapon.
You dont have to love them, or the way they (mis)treat you. But, their lack of love is your challenge. Just because they act out of need does not mean you have to as well. Hold on to what you know to be true. Hold on to the love inside. Know that this person in front of you is lacking what you have.
Expressing your outrage is human. It’s how you respond to their attack, once you see it for what it truly is, that will determine your future.
~with sharpened love in Elul, jrb